31 Jul In her shoes~ Abortion recovery is a highly specialized field. Specialists offer invaluable insight.
Sometimes we receive emails and see posts from people who tell us how “selfish” and “cruel” those of us who have chosen abortion are, and how we “use abortion as birth control”. If you’re one of the people I’m talking about who look down at the men and women who have lost children to abortion, then I implore you to keep reading and have an open mind.
Many of the mothers and fathers who come to us seeking help after abortion, tell us very different stories. They tell us of the domineering parents who forced abortion on them as teenagers; or of the adult at the abortion clinic who told them this choice would bring freedom; or how about the girl who justifies this choice because she trusted her lawmakers were working in her best interest; or the boy who’s girlfriend came back from spring break not pregnant anymore. Get the picture? These stories are rarely about birth control. Actually in the 19 years SaveOne has been operating, I have never had someone tell me they used abortion as birth control.
Their stories usually include feeling as though there was no other choice.
So when I see people remarking about the horrible people who choose abortion, I want them to sit in my office with me for just one day and hear the stories we hear, or read the heart-breaking emails we receive.
Abortion is not a choice any little girl ever dreams of choosing one day. We want to draw those who are hurting to us, not drive them further away or into themselves. We can bash those who have made this choice, or we can love them right where they are and lead them to the One who heals and transforms.
Biography
Sheila Harper is the Founder and President of SaveOne, an international outreach ministry for men, women, and families suffering in silence after an abortion. She holds a Master’s degree in biblical counseling and is the author of 8 books. “SaveOne-A Guide to Emotional Healing after Abortion” her first book has been translated and distributed in 20 languages. SaveOne currently has 254 chapters in 22 countries. Sheila has traveled the world speaking on the topic of abortion recovery as well as training abortion recovery leaders. After enduring seven years of personal anguish over choosing abortion, she found restoration and forgiveness through Jesus Christ. Sheila has two awesome sons, and now lives in Nashville, TN with her husband, Jack. You can order the books, or find a chapter near you at www.saveone.org
When we heal her, we prevent her future abortions, and we save lives.